Monthly Archives: October 2005

Diary post:Everything hurts

everything hurts today. i am very tired. very little got done yesterday. something is wrong with my brakes on my car and my mechanic can’t seem to figure out what it is. i need to write a blog entry on the car alone. what a mess that’s been this year. right now the car shakes at high speeds when i put on the brakes, but not all the time. i just had the calipers replaced along with the brake pads and they turned over the rotors. but it still shakes, a lot. the whole steering wheel shakes. every day the car is in the shop is a day i can’t get to health care providers. i missed a chiropractic and acupuncture appointment yesterday, i couldn’t schedule a massage for this weekend and today i’m in a lot of pain, even though i rested most of the day yesterday. it hurts to sit up or try to get around. i had great plans for the day, but it looks like i’ll be home, waiting to be stronger. there’s no timeline for the inconvenience. when I’m sick, i just have to lie here and wait until i feel better. it could take hours. it could take months. i might try swimming or yoga, and i’ll see if i can find a massage. there’s also so much to do here, at home, so much to take care of; the management of life. i did get the garden in, in a rare burst of energy that was short lived, but sufficient. i ate well and cooked dinner all week for leon and me. i’ve been getting out more, to more events, which is what i wanted to do today, and may yet do. i want so much to tackle everything in front of me, to put tasks behind me, to work hard to solve my problems, find solutions, but hard work leads to unbearable pain and fatigue that often i just have to stop and rest for extended periods of time. and now i have to save myself, that is, i need to get strong enough, and find some work. financially, everything is falling apart around me. so many basic needs aren’t getting met. it all does get back to the car, and what it has cost me this year, but, as i said, that’s a whole entry in itself.

Diary post:Resistance of ordinary seeds

i woke up today at 10 am, in santa monica, at andy’s home. he left hours ago to go to work. i’m so tired. but there isn’t much pain, a bit of vertigo, that vague hung over feeling that comes after an exciting evening. we were able to go hear howard zinn and others reading from his latest book. andy, loves the theater and we get to go out so infrequently, between his work schedule, activism and my health, it gets harder and harder. last weekend we had planned to go to a movie after dinner, but we went to see the south central farmers ( -an amazing farm, organic, bio diverse, lush, dense, in the heart of los angeles, and in threat of being torn down by a system without a heart.) there had been no parking near the garden, so i had to walk from the car. later, i wandered in the garden, which was wonderful, but left me very tired and in a lot of pain. so by the time we were done, having written most of the day, which puts a strain on my back, that lying still does not inflict, i was in too much pain and could not sit through a movie. there is a challenge to any relationship, how to find time for divergent interests and time as well for the relationship. this is not a petty task, but one so often discarded in the sacrifice for relationship. so many of us lose ourselves in what today, is called love. it’s even harder when one person is sick. so much falls on the caretaker. i know this is hard for him. It’s not that I don’t love the theater, I do. i’m just too tired much of the time, and stiff chairs, stairs, inaccessible venues, lots of walking, standing, is hard work for me. what he does to relax is, for me, a real physical challenge. so when we had the opportunity to go out last night, i did spend some time in the morning with desk work; home management, political activism, writing, electronic housekeeping, but spent the afternoon resting; watched a movie, meditating, sleeping. by 3 pm i was still very tired. by five i was stronger and ready to go out. we found a restaurant with booths in little tokyo, near the theater, booths are important. they are more comfortable for me, give me, my back. more support, allow me to sit longer, to move around more. at the theatre we saw many people we both knew. i’ve been getting out more the last few weeks, getting a bit stronger. most days are better than the one preceding, but there are some very lethargic days, very painful days, days i can’t move very well. today i’m just tired. we got to sleep very late last night and andy’s alarm went off before 6 am. i got up with him for a little while, but went back to sleep after he left for work. i woke up several hours later. there isn’t much i have to do today. i hope to plant my winter garden, health permitting. leon already prepped the soil with compost and organic fertilizer. i bought the seedlings and some seeds. we’ll have cabbages, lettuce, fennel, beets, kale. spinach, peas, beans. the peppers, we had over ten varieties this summer, are still coming in, and the roses i planted in the fall are in bloom, amazing. edible flowers include nasturtiums, pansies and roses. they make beautiful salads, as do the pomegranates. the last zucchini waits to be picked and the tomatoes are long gone. they were short and sweet. the snails have over populated, making new seedlings excellent targets for their voracious habit. otherwise there’s enough food for everyone; the people and the bugs. It’s more of a problem in winter, when the crops consist of the leaves of the plant. in summer we grow the fruit; tomatoes, zucchini, eggplant, peppers. if the bugs eat the leave, there still remains much left for the people to eat. i don’t usually plant winter gardens, but soil is plentiful, deep, loamy, and organic vegetables are prohibitively expensive. so this is a bit of a new venture for me. in some ways it should be easier, cooler weather. less watering.
the day has other requirements as well: i need to stop by the market and pick up some bread. i need to schedule appointments for my health care. i have to drive home. i should leave before traffic gets too thick. the thirty-two miles between our homes, andy’s and mine, can be so long so much of the time. the window of time to travel is so thin. what could take a half an hour, can take two, at the wrong time of day.
that’s enough for now. i look forward to finding work, finding the strength to do work, having the money to pay my bills. today i am grateful for the improved strength i have. it is all so slow, so measured. but that’s another entry. i’ll write more tomorrow

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Poem: Daily resurrections

Daily resurrections

“…that your passion may live through its own daily resurrection, and like the phoenix rise above its own ashes.” ~Khalil Gibran

“I must fight with what little strength I have, for the revolution.  The only real reason worth living.”  -Frida Kahlo

take hold to delicate earth
words carve images on empty sheets of verse
the house holds musty
the smell of baking bread
there are three new
poems in the world today
that weren’t here before

I wish
I had more strength
the sap sucked from my limbs
by birds of prey
I lie here before the next attack
and prepare my quiet insurrection

breath I take is manifesto
against the huge machine
we have yet to dismantle

I wait
for when we can plan the uprising
the birds picking at my heart
taste the bitterness of my tenacity
if you looked into my eyes
you would see clarity

disguised as tears
to fool the vultures

A letter to the world, both big and small.

Here is the letter I sent out to tell the world about my blog.

Dear ones,

I want to invite you to visit my blog. It is a daily journal of my struggles with a little known illness, fibromyalgia, which has, for the most part, especially in recent months, taken me away from activism and confined me to my bed. I have shared perhaps pieced of what I am going to share here, with some of you, but for the most part, this is a bit of a coming out. I should include in this introduction, for those who don’t know, that I am a single mother with a child who also has significant health issues. We live in the isolation of what I call, quite seriously, the single mother ghetto, the way this society isolates women and children.

There is much shame and isolation around illness and disability in our society. More difficult than the disability, is the marginalization that has come with it. After a relatively minor car accident last April, which brought about an especially severe relapse, I had to retreat from most of my activity, including my activism, which very much defines for me, who I am. Having been reduced to being a sick woman in a bed, I have been called forth to make it my activism. So I have started this blog. Bringing noise to the silence, I am reminded of that quote by Audre Lorde: “My silence had not protected me. Your silence will not protect you.” Silence seems to protect. It protects me from the cruel statements even well meaning people make. It protects me from harsh judgement. It protects me, to the extent that I can hide my disability, from the discrimination that comes with such a condition. But in silence there is complicity to the isolation. In isolation and silence there is no transformation.

I have named my blog, “In Bed with Frida Kahlo.” It’s a playful title, toying with both Frida’s prolific choice of intimate partners and her infirmity. Frida, a complicated woman who was an artist and an activists, having endured both polio and a devastating trolley accident, was confined to her bed for much of her life. She suffered great loneliness and despair which she chronicled in her diary and her paintings. My favorite quote of hers is “I must fight with all my strength so that the little positive things that my health allows me to do might be pointed toward helping the revolution. The only real reason for living.” It is often quoted. Less quoted are the words that preceded it:
“I’ve been sick for a year now…. I don’t feel any pain. Only this…bloody tiredness, and naturally, quite often despair…I feel uneasy about my painting. Above all I want to transform it into something useful. for the Communist revolutionary movement, since up to now I have only painted the earnest portrayal of myself. But I’m very far from work that could serve the Party.”

She doubts the value of her art because it is so personal, and yet, it is through her paintings that we get to know her ideas, her values, her politics. This quote speaks to the fact that we never really know the impact we have on the world, –harder yet to know from the isolation and confines of bed. Frida’s story resonates with me, though I live my life very differently than she did. I don’t drink, I eat healthy, and for the most part, organic foods, Aside from occasional hits of shesha,(flavored tobacco, from a hooka pipe) I don’t smoke. I believe I have better taste in men, and I am not nearly as sexually prolific as she was. But we share art, socialism, and illness, and her story has helped me understand my own; to put it in a greater social and political context. She died when she was only a few months older than I am now, many suspect by suicide, certainly by overdose of morphine to kill the pain that she lived with most of her life. I am determined to out live her by many years.

The writer’s life is an open book. I hope to provide in this blog, an honest account of life with illness, hoping, in my outburst to bring something to those who similarly suffer and to add, from my sickbed, to the body politic. I do, as a writer, have very few secrets, but I am very careful with the details I provide of those whose lives touch mine. Forgive me when I am vague. It is not myself I am protecting, but the privacy of others. The decision to tell their story should be theirs. Not mine.

Fibromyalgia strikes mostly women, seems to be neurological and immunological in origin, has no known marker or pathogens, is not contagious, and receives little research money. Symptoms include fatigue, pain, cognitive and memory difficulties, gastrointestinal problems, chemical sensitivity and depression. The severity comes and goes. Most of us with the condition are deceptively healthy looking. We have periods of greater activity and long periods of relapse. About two years ago I managed to hike 6 miles on my favorite trail in the San Gabriel mountains. It took me four hours instead of three, I didn’t hike alone, as I would have before I had become ill, and it took me days to recuperate, but I did it. Today I would have difficulty walking around the block. And yet I don’t doubt that I will find myself on a hiking trail sometime within the next year, and then back in bed once again some time after that.

Before I was ill, I was a full time classroom teacher in Los Angeles in a job I had held for 18 years. I also coordinated two educational programs and was involved in my union. Since the illness, I have had great trouble finding paying work. While some jobs have proven difficult for me to maintain because of the condition, more distressing are the number of requests that I work in a volunteer capacity to provide skills I am capable of meeting, from people who are more than willing to pay able bodied people to provide the same work. The constant reminders that my work has no monetary value add to my sense of marginalization and isolation. It’s not just vanity. I need the money. Due to the diligent work of teachers unions, I, like other disabled teachers, receive a full pension, half a teacher’s salary. This is much better than social security disability benefits, which would put me within the established definition of poverty. I also have health care coverage from my previous employment, but unfortunately, most of the health care modalities that help me with this condition, are not included in the coverage. There is very little that traditional Western medicine can do to help with fibromyalgia. While I could, in my simplicity, live on my pension, were I not sick, the added costs of my care, keep me in constant need of resources.

In my efforts to bring meaning and healing to my life, I struggle with the isolation that comes not only with the illness, but the marginalization that accompanies it, the inability of the social fabric to provide support, community, healing: our busy lives, the distance between intimates, the pithy values of the capitalist system that blame the victim, that sees all problems as individual and not collective, and the overall lack of accessible healthcare. One of the most isolating and marginalizing factors is what I call spiritual fascism. a bit of “survival of the fittest” that has entered into our daily lexicon of illness. “What did you do to create this?” “Can’t you just psyche yourself up and snap out of it?” “If you were more spiritual…” “When I’m sick I just meditate and it goes away.” “It’s god’s punishment.”“What did you do in a past life to bring this on yourself?” My favorite one: “Why did you choose this illness?” From the Christian right to New Age spirituality, the ideology that we somehow create our own suffering, that we can determine our own reality, I feel is rooted in American individualism and the break down of any understanding of collective responsibility and mutual aid, that illness might be a collective concern, that we don’t create our own reality, but rather, contribute to the collective reality, that racism, sexism, greed, violence and illness are real factors, beyond our spiritual imagination, that they are material and require a deep and significant response.

There is much indication that this illness is caused by a combination of trauma and environmental toxins. To that extent it is very much a disease of our times, caused, not by the individual, but by our social structure, the daily traumas of the violence of capitalism, the bombardment of dangerous toxins, in a society that puts greater value on profit, than on human need.

A wise rabbi once said “ The history of all hitherto existing societies is the history of class struggle.” (Actually that was Karl Marx, but what was he, if not a wise rabbi?) And my history is the struggle not only with the limitations of this condition, but the limitations and marginalization imposed by a corrupt civilization that has abandoned mutual aid for blame and guilt.

Since the accident I have had to pare down my activism. I have found myself unable to get out of the house much, often unable even to sit up in bed. I have not been able to continue projects I had started, and have had to reinvent myself again, as I have had to do repeatedly with this condition. Having been reduced to being a sick woman in a bed, I have decided to embrace it, to explore it, to bring my activism to it, to recognize my personal struggle as part of the universal struggle for human rights, dignity, health care, community. I cannot believe my isolation and loneliness is unique. I understand it to be part of a dialectic that must affect many people, all alone, all struggling for access, community, for health care.

I am beginning to come out of the relapse and find it is easier, in hindsight to appreciate the depth of the relapse, to forgive myself the despair and anxiety it has caused, to timidly look forward to the possibility of finding work and hopefully meeting my needs. The more severe neurological symptoms have abated. I can walk a bit further and use a cane or a walker less and less. I have fewer days where I can’t sit up in bed. I can write again. I am very grateful to Dr. Michael Hubka, an extraordinary chiropractor, Dr. Amy Swei, my acupuncturist, Greta Craddolf, my massage therapist, Dr. Kate Bourne, my therapist, Dr. Joseph Haraszti, my psychiatrist and pharmachologist and Guadalupe Medrano, my cafregive (who is wonderful, and looking for more work). My son, Leon and my partner, Andy Griggs, have been enormous supports, as have my mother and several close friends (Sonali, Jim, Stephanie, Dima, Huda, Ban, John, Hussam, Linda, Darlene, Shraga, Sam, Dorothy, Sari, Tannery, Mary, Ariela, Linda, Bob, Alvaro, Mansoor, Steve, Ramaa– I hope I didn’t leave anyone out!) I must also acknowledge that my auto insurance company has been extraordinary in this whole process. Finally, I want to thank the Human Rights Committee of United Teachers Los Angeles for their gracious support and accommodation, which has allowed me increased activism and participation. That so many activists jump in to do what I cannot, allows me to give what I can. Perhaps the hardest part of this whole ordeal is that I am not short of vision, but the vehicle to bring it to fruition.

Frida has been accused of painting self-portraits to get attention, an unfair accusation from those who can find community by leaving their homes. We all need attention, communion. I am sure attention is one of my motives for this endeavor, but more importantly is the hope that I can create connection, hope, clarity, vision to those who suffer, as well as those who go about their lives, caught up in the fight for survival, the treadmill of life.

You can find my blog at
Currently it includes my bio and a few posts. You can respond to my posts and subscribe to the blog. In the future it will include photos and drawings, chronicles of the daily indignities of disability, insights, wish lists, poetry, despair and hope. Most posts will be brief annecdotes and insights, much shorter than this introductory rant.

Thank you for permitting me this indulgence.

Peace with justice, and above all else,


Emma Rosenthal
Baldwin Park, CA

Diary post: 3 am

It’s 3 am. I am awake and writing. this is not insomnia. I awaken from a deep sleep and can’t not write. I leave my bed, my sleeping bed, alone or not, and wander over to my bed-desk and keys hit the page, often until dawn. Then I fall back asleep. Most of my writing comes to me like this. I used to think it was insomnia. Now I recognize it as a midnight guest bringing me out to work. By daylight, thoughts emerge, formulate but. most of what I have to say comes out of me at night. I hear the crickets through the window, as if I were not in Los Angeles, as if I were on retreat in the mountains, or deep on a farm in the country. I had a dream tonight, just before awakening. It was a dream about betrayal. The betrayal was real. The dream only put it into images, defined it, let me know it was time to leave, that I could not return. After months, I understood why, that I would never be able to be my fullest self and stay. It was wonderful and I found so much of me in their arms. But their wars are a lie and I cannot continue there, honestly and it would not be kind to tell the truth and no one would hear me anyway. They have built their walls high and painted a door. It only looks like and opening. It only looks like peace. It is really another war of the same machine. It just feels good. In the end it changes nothing. I have to go. It is no longer my place.

This is my newest space. I call it, In Bed with Frida Kahlo. I understood my life better by watching hers. We are both sick women in a world that has little use for healthy women, even less for those of us who take to bed most of the time. She painted, I write. I watched her take her easel, lying in bed, mirror above her to reflect her back to herself. I know that. For me it is the lap top, click, click. I don’t have a mirror, and sometimes I get lost. I look for a mirror in the people I love. But often they forget about me as they run around in their own lives. I understand she was very lonely. That she painted herself to constantly, some say, to get attention. We think she wasn’t lonely because we have her art. We critique her for her love for Diego, for her weaknesses, for not being our archetype. Or we pretend that she was something she was not, that she was always strong and sure of herself. We paint her likeness on school bags and t-shirts. She has become fashion like Che and Malcolm. But that doesn’t mean she did not struggle, alone, alone, alone.


ahhh, but you do have a mirror. It is called “Imagination”. And with it you reflect your heart, and reveal your soul. I do not believe there is little use for women, of any measure of health. You create your use. And you have tools to fulfill that use… your easel. It is your easel that has but one use; to support a work in progress. One use. But a noble one. One worthy of praise. Don’t sell yourself short. There is more value in one hour of conversation with you, than any amount of riches I could amass. Of this I am quite sure. I will add you to my link list and follow where your imagination leads. _Posted by MuslinOpaque on 10/02/2005 11:12:50 PM


“I feel uneasy about my painting…Up till now I have only painted the earnest portrayal of myself, but I am very far from work that could serve the party. I must fight with all my strength so that the little positive things that my health allows me to do might be pointed toward helping the revolution. The only real reason for living.”
-Frida Kahlo
The Diary of Frida Khalo

I hope this space with be about courage and truth. I want to speak about the secrets of my life, the daily indignities and small victories, what it means to be disabled, bedridden in a society whose foundation is so entrenched in the illusion of the strength of the individual, that blames the victim. I want to have the courage to speak the truth about fear, illness, isolation, pain, loss, hope and especially, love. I want to take brilliant women off the pedestal that leaves us in such a precarious a space to be admired but never really understood, that holds us to our strengths and holds our weaknesses against us. I want to cry out for community, mutual aid, interdependence. I want to provide resource and truth to those who are also alone. Many days, this illness reduces me to nothing more that a sick woman in a bed. Many days this society finds me less and less useful. I am sure in my loneliness, I am not alone, that what I endure, is endured by many others. All I have is time. It stretches on like the horizon over the ocean in California, or cornfields in Kansas. It has no interruption. In the end, we are what we make of what we have been given. There is so much I would like to do with my life. Swallowed by this illness much of the time, I need to let it breath through me, become my struggle. How can my art support transformation, revolution, resurrection?
I hope to tell the truth, the truth about my own life. I believe that in telling one’s truth, that the truth of the lives around me be protected. Their stories are not mine to tell. Where I am vague it guards a confidence, allows an incubation for someone else to tell their own story. What I tell here of the lives of others, is either already public, or has been given to me to tell. It takes courage to tell one’s own truth. Telling other people’s story must be done with kindness, respect, integrity and permission.

©2005 Emma Rosenthal All Rights Reserved. Permission to post or forward in entirety including the copyright.

Emma: I have been enjoying reading your Emails for years … but this one was the most touching …. You are a extremely strong and courageous woman ….. my prayers go to you and your family …. its very important that you continue your work as you work through your illness ….. you’ve been comforting others ….. now its your turn to be comforted ….. we – all those who know you – love U for just being U … chazz _Posted by CHAZZ on 10/02/2005 02:03:13 AM